Saturday, April 24, 2010

Decisions, decisions, and peace

Sometimes having too many options, too many
decisions to make can be a bad thing. How many
surfers have large quivers with a healthy variety
of surfboards, shapes, and sizes? I know I'm guilty for sure.
I've got almost every kind of board imaginable from a 5'8"
retro fish to a 10'10" SUP with just about everything in between.
I own longboards, shortboards, guns, eggs, single fins, twin fins,
tri fins, and a quad. Got all my bases covered I guess, but
sometimes all it does is confuse me. Sometimes I wish
I didn't have so many choices, so many decisions to make.
It sure was easier when all I had to do was grab my only board
go surf.

Life can seem a lot like picking out a board to ride. To
many choices can lead to too much stress. Narrowing
down the array of options can be a relief, can provide peace.
Recently I've had to make some decisions, I found myself
thinking about and exploring all the options
available. Like many, I asked others for their advice. I heard
lots of ideas, lots of opinions, lots of choices. It
became almost overwhelming. After a bit of time, some meditation
and thought I reached my own decision. I decided what I would
do, which board I'd ride as it were. No more second guessing.
Odd how peaceful it can become when you make a decision, pick
the board you'll ride.

Make your own decision. One that is right for
you. You can second guess forever, wonder if you've chosen the
right path, the right board, or you can mindfully
and thoughtfully pick one, have confidence in it and enjoy
your session. It's your choice.

Tuesday, April 13, 2010


In surfing and in life it's really how you look at
things that matters. What filters do you use that
influence what you see or what you hear. How do
your filters impact the quality of your life, your
relationships, and how you communicate with others?

I listened as a surfer I know talked about a recent
session. "It was good and not at all crowded"
Another surfer who was surfing at the same spot and
at the same time told me "it wasn't really that great, the
wind was blowing hard and it held you up making it tough
to make the drop". Yet another told me "the ramps on the
inside lefts were great for launching airs. I had a blast!"
Three surfers all seeing things from their own unique
perspective, judging the same wave in very different ways.

I hear similar things in my office. Just tonight I worked
with a couple whose big issue revolved around one partner
hearing something through their own filter. What they heard
and ultimately reacted to was not at all what their partner
actually meant or said. They never even thought that
they could have been filtering the message through their
own perspective and not actually hearing what was said
or what was meant.

Do your filters get you in trouble? Confuse the messages?
Dictate your reactions? Try to understand and listen to what
is actually being said not what you think was said or what you
think it meant. Slow down before you react. The same surf,
the same time, 3 different perspectives. Probably happens in your
life alot.

Saturday, April 3, 2010

Lost in Whitewater

Wow, it's been a while since my last update.
Sort of like someone wiping out on a big wave, a Tres
Palms, Mavericks, or Waimea Bay type big wave, and
disappearing in the white water before suddenly popping up.
I've popped back up!

Not quite sure what held me under for so long. I barely even
remember wiping out at all. Guess we all get lost at times.
It's easy to lose our focus, or get too involved in some things without
remembering how important other things are. Maybe that's
it, I lost some focus. I got busy in the office, found myself
focusing on the trivialities on each day, dealing
with what might seem the more important events in one's life, or
maybe it was the joy of surfing in the warm waters of Puerto Rico.
Be that as it may, I got lost or should I say sidetracked. We all do.
The important thing it to pop back up! As long as we pop back up
out of the whitewater after a wipeout we're fine. Even long hold
downs have lessons to teach.